When it comes to dating, I am not a pro nor am I novice. I'm just average. My dating adventures only began when I was 19 which leaves me chronicling five years of, what, dating (?). Yet, that didn't stop me from trying to give advice to my friends who are facing dating horrors. I have seen enough to know what advice to give them.
So, the phone call I received last night was all familiar. A friend of mine (Alyssa) met a guy while she was working one day. While doing his transaction, she mentioned how his eyes were bright and in return, the guy gave her his number. They went out on a drink this passed Tuesday and apparently it was all too...quiet. Considering that it was a first date, I told her both sides were definitely nervous therefore a second chance may not hurt. But then, the guys never called yesterday and today is Thursday.
Now, Alyssa said that no one really has taken her out on a date. Not for drinks, not to dinner. So, this date thing is very foreign to her. But there is no denying that Alyssa is interested, but should she make the move? According to her, a friend of hers told her to send him a thank you text message. With my resources aka guy's POV aka boyfriend, it would be better to call and leave a voice message. In a way, it seems more personable and less technical.
I like to give advice knowing that i have experience something similar and/or common sense without the female psyche interrupting, but the again, I am only woman. The battle between the rules and common sense is never ending.
I told Alyssa to just take risk. If she was able to jump off a plane for skydiving, she can definitely jump into this situation. I mean, what's the worst the could happen? I know the results would be much better than skydiving...
Why is it so difficult to make the first move?
Ego? Principles?
Moreso, why do we have to play games all the time?
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