Honey bees and stinging men ears

I am guilty as charge.

As a person who uses "honey" or "sweetie" or even "baby" with no malice or the intent of using these grandma phrases to lure an opposite sex for attraction, I have yet to learn to draw the line when addressing these sweet nothings to a guy. Lately, I have come in contact with situations involving these sweet callings toward guys coming from some of my friends. Let me elaborate:

Person A addresses on of these sweet nothings to person C through online messages. Thinking it was probably platonic and okay to "return" the calling, person C refers to person A 'sexy' after replying back. Now, person A was baffled and cannot understand why Person C called her 'sexy', therefore constructing involuntary analysis of what the word 'sexy' means to him and to her.

Which brings me to the point: do women have the free card to say sweet things to men, not having the intentions of flirting and cavorting with them?

Being a woman is complex.

I agree. Definitely complex, but never complicated. I believe that our sweet personalities are driven through actions and words but be aware there is a rather thin line between these platonic, nice, sweet gestures and just plain flirting. Let me break it down:

> A touch of an arm has nothing to do with us liking you. It's about comfort.

Now, caressing an arm has everything to do with liking you. Prolonged caresses that travel from part to another is the major sign for wanting you.

> A friendly smile or quick glances do not indicate an interest of knowing you more. It's all friendly.

A smile with a smirk and playful gazes- long playful gazes- gives a green light to approach her-never the other way around.

> Using 'hun', 'sweetie' or other phrases exchanged between a grandmother and her grandson is nothing more but a friendly calling. Instead of 'dude' or 'man', it's a more feminine way to address a fellow opposite comrade. We're just being sweet. That is all.

> Putting an arm around your arm is just a platonic human contact. Just like touching your arm, it's nothing more but be cuddly and have something to lean on. Because, I'm telling you, we like to cuddle.

So there. I know i'm leaving some things that need clarification...please leave a comment and let me know what you think :)